“I’d be concerned about the motives of anybody continually seeking romantic relationships with much younger people. “I was groomed by older men as a child because I was unable to experience love or sexuality naturally without being condemned by the church around me, and it has affected how I approach sex and love today”. “Because of that restrictive way that we experienced love and sexuality (from my experience), we chase after sexual experiences online, and then older men prey on this. A lot of my gay friends have big age gaps and it mostly works out for them - I guess it’s just up to the individuals. “You’ll see a prevalence of larger age gaps between gay men, maybe as there’s a smaller availability of potential partners. I remember when I first started Uni, that people called me ‘ideal’ because I was inexperienced - it was gross. “Due to the restricted way that I and others experienced sexuality and romance, it allowed for a heightened risk of being groomed. I’ve noticed that this was especially bad in the gay community.
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“I hear of young people who are groomed as teenagers into relationships as adults and it makes my skin crawl. Madonna (63) just ended a three year relationship with a 28-year-old dancer. “But at face value between adults, I don’t see an age gap meaning all too much if both parties are happy with it”. “The opinions that get thrown around online are largely based on assumptions - like someone must have been groomed, or that someone’s just doing it for monetary gain stuff like that which could be a legitimate concern. Women who are older get shamed, where as men don’t”. “It’s not to say that women don’t do that too, but I think there's a completely different rhetoric when we see people like Demi Moore dating Ashton Kutcher, and Madonna. I think it’s really interesting to look at that. “And Scott Disick said on a recent episode of Keeping Up With The Kardashians that he likes younger women because they don’t challenge him compared to women his own age. “Socially this stuff always kind of irks me out, like Leonardo DiCaprio - everybody makes a joke about him dating younger women, but it’s actually so gross. There’s a weird culture on this.” - Jahin, 21 “Even in mainstream culture, we have celebs like Leo DiCaprio who’s known to date younger women, and everyone just jokes.
Please be aware there may be a short delay in comments appearing on the site.Famous for dating much younger women, Leonardo DiCaprio is the butt of all jokes come awards season.
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Poor body image and self-loathing are often responsible for lowered sexual interest. The insight you expressed in your last sentence may be the key, so you might do well to start there.